It’s thought that genetics account for about 50 percent of your “innate” happiness while life circumstances make up another 10. The rest is under your control, and the first step to getting there is to choose and believe you can be happy.
Trust me I know it is easier said than done. I have struggled for years trying to grasp that concept. I have tried some many different routes to happiness, but I kept finding myself lost in my thoughts “trying” too hard to get it right. It seems everyone I’ve come across is on a pursuit of happiness, but my question every time is…what steps are you taking to
If it were easy everybody would do what is needed but its not. That’s why very few are successful with what is MOST important, which is happiness instead most are more successful with money, with a big loss of happiness. That tells to show that money and success does not make you happy without managing and tackling the primary cause of your unhappiness. I promise you that it is not money. If it was, it is not the lack of money being produced but more so the lack of motivation from your past or present hurt, distraction, etc.
In many ways, your level of emotional success is based on your own choices and attitudes. There are some people that are able to get up and get going with less force, while major of us get easily side tracked by challenges day in and day out. And I was one for many years and still am at times today, until I had enough! In order to “toughen up” emotionally, in a way that you’re able to live your life feeling naturally strong and confident in your choices and to be able to live out your life in a way that makes you feel accomplished at the end of the day, below I am list of ways that have helped me. Hope it helps you just as much or even more!
Creating Healthy Habits
1) CHOOSE to be HAPPY
Ø Make it a priority to be happy
Ø If it does not feed you in a way where you do not feel satisfied, DO NOT do it again
Ø Write out post it notes and place them where you will see it most (ex. refrigerator, dresser mirror, etc)
2) Be in CONTROL
Ø Be the BOSS of your own life. You are in control of what happens to and around you
Ø You are the creator of the energy you serve around you
3) LEARN from your mistakes
Ø Never look at a failure as a loss…you ONLY lose if you did not “choose” to learn from your mistake
Ø Take every opportunity missed as a learning tool to do better next time
4) CREATE goals
Ø Write out your goals on a vision board where you can see it DAILY/NIGHTLY
Ø Visualizing your goals helps give you a clear direction and plan for achieving your dreams
Ø Share them with those closest to you, to help hold you accountable
5) ACCEPT who and where you are NOW!
Ø Strength to move forward in life comes from within
Ø Be comfortable in your own skin , and STOP looking for acceptance from others because you will forever be UNHAPPY otherwise
Ø Positive self talk is important to create a positive image of yourself and sometimes you might be the only person see and believe it
Ø It is ok to be the only one that understands you and where you are. As long as you have a plan to BE THE BEST…KEEP FAITH and HOPE ALIVE
Ø BE STRONG AND CONFIDENT, its attractive!
6) Keep your Stress in CHECK!!
Ø DO NOT allow your stress to control your emotions…then you will feel defeated and unaccomplished
Ø DO NOT allow people or situations to define you. YOU ARE IN CONTROL
Ø When you feel under a lot of stress, create an outlet for those negative thoughts that will creep up (exercise, nature walk, meditation, etc.)
7) BRUSH the little things off IMMEDIATELY
Ø Stressing over circumstances you can’t control or those that do not really matter will drain you and wear you down
Ø Resist the urge to fight them and instead be the bigger person and BRUSH THEM OFF! Remember YOU’RE THE BOSS! J
8) TAKE ACTION!
Ø Make it a priority to exercise daily whether it’s a 20min jog or 45-1hr full workouts. MAKE TIME for yourself. You are MOST IMPORTANT
Ø Spend some time in focusing on your thought (meditation) and exploring new ideas every day. If you do not take care of you, you can not be any better for those around you
Ø Create positive bonds with likeminded people and cut off those who are toxic
Ø Identify a source of inspiration that is bigger than you (GOD) or anything that you personally believe in
Ø Differentiate between wants and needs
- cut out unnecessary wants and replace with necessary needs
What you’ll notice about the habits above is that these are primarily choices you can make for yourself. It might help to look at your emotions as a form of energy. Sounds weird right? Well think of it this way, when you feel an emotion, what you’re really sensing is the vibration of a particular energy. Each emotion has its own vibration, and when intense emotions are felt, they can become trapped in your body, much like a ball of energy. Then these “balls of energy” can become stuck just about anywhere in your body, where they can then cause disruptions in your body’s energy.
You will then feel negative emotions where you are fighting this urge to act on that emotion. A thought of confusion will run through your mind unable to figure the thoughts out clearly.
Your body cannot tell the difference between an actual experience that triggers an emotional response and an emotion fabricated through thought process alone—such as when worrying about something negative that might occur but has not actually happened, or conversely, thinking about something positive and pleasant. So it is up to you to control those thoughts and allow your intuition/spirit to feel the real good feeling you deserve.
Sending you lots of love and positive vibes! :)